How do I know I’m loving the brethren? Answer: Is my relationship currently right with you. Have I taken up offense, wronged you, failed you, has something come in to try and drive a wedge between us. Is there something that is broken and I have not done what I can to make it right and to make sure it’s gone? Can you look at every brother in your church and be sure you have no walls between you and them? Do you have to avoid brethren in meetings because things are not really right with you and them?