Do Calvinists tend to be unloving and mean? Are there things in the Christian life that are more important than being absolutely precise in every area of theology?
The reality is in Ephesians 5:5 that no idolater will inherit the kingdom of God. The sad reality is there are thousands of people who have their Calvinism/Arminianism, and that is their God. It is not about Christ, it is about knowledge. Do not be deceived you will not inherit the Kingdom of God unless you can let go of your pride.
Is it biblical to say that we are saved? or that we are being saved? What does the bible teach about salvation? What truly is salvation and can we lose it? and how do we endure to the end in this race?
Are you enduring in this life in Christ? or your works and self-effort? What is salvation? I encourage you to watch this excerpt of the full bible study "Salvation, Once Saved Always Saved?"