When a Church Member Leaves: A Response

Church Member Leaves: Reflections and Lessons

When a church member leaves, it often brings challenges and lessons that require careful reflection. Recently, a longtime member of our congregation departed, and this change highlights two significant issues: how the decision was handled and the decision itself. Addressing these concerns helps us honor God, strengthen our fellowship, and learn from these experiences.

Handling Departures the Right Way

When a church member leaves, the process should align with biblical principles. Scripture emphasizes that both the method and the message matter. For example:

1. Submission to the Body: Decisions should involve the church community. In this case, the decision was made independently, without seeking the congregation’s blessing or guidance. This bypassed the New Testament’s emphasis on mutual submission and unity, as seen in Ephesians 5:21.
2. The Safety of Counsel: Proverbs highlights that wise decisions require input from others. Skipping this step can lead to avoidable mistakes. A spirit of “Brethren, pray for us” fosters accountability and wisdom.
3. Acting in Love: Leaving abruptly after 14 years of shared ministry can feel discourteous. Church life is about shared burdens and joys. Communicating transitions with care strengthens relationships and avoids unnecessary misunderstandings.

Reflecting on the Decision

The decision itself raised questions. It was made during a time of personal struggle, without unity in the family, and involved joining a church with differing doctrinal and practical stances. While that church holds the gospel, its differences in areas like separation, evangelism, and fellowship should be considered carefully. Leaving without reconciliation, as Matthew 5 advises, can hinder spiritual growth.

Moving Forward in Love

When a church member leaves, it’s vital to respond with grace and prayer. We prayed for our brother and trust God’s plan for his future. This experience reminds us to approach transitions with wisdom and humility. Above all, let us ensure our actions and decisions reflect God’s love and promote unity in the body of Christ.